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Making a difference (friendship)

I know it’s been a long time since my last post… I need to be friends with the time… Once again a post without preparation or thinking ahead (If I do that I wont write).

Well what is this post about? I thought about making a difference in peoples lives. These couple weeks I’ve been deepening my friendships, opening my heart and trying to make a difference in the lives of people around me, and you know what? It’s working 🙂

Sometime ago on my birthday one of my friends spoke that one of  my gifts to the circle of friends was that I make the difference into peoples lives, that it’s difficult for me to pass unnoticed. Well since then I was thinking and praying and a couple birthdays ago I’ve finally realized why was that. I let people make the difference in my life.

Actually I do that by putting myself in other peoples shoes, I put myself on that person’s place and I think:  If it was me on that situation what would I do?  Or: How would I like to be treated? What can I do to make sure he/she  is feeling comfortable around me?

I’ve seen that some people don’t want you to solve their problems they just want you to listen to them. I’ve experienced true friendship, with girls. Yes it is possible for a man to have real friends of the opposite sex (I don’t like the definition but I’ll go with that). It’s true people talk, we were joking about bets of how long it was going to take or which one I was dating, I had to answer clearly to one of my friends (a man BTW) that I wasn’t dating one of them.

Denise and Juliana in Fortaleza and another Juliana in Vienna, they have been examples of good, healthy and godly friendships the Lord gave me to live. I am thankful for them in my life. When we’re together we just openheartedly share our experiences of prayer, of offerings, of humiliations for the Kingdom of God, of God’s love in our hearts this way just looking at each other we can know what we mean and we support each other in His ways…

Thanks for reading, the goal of this post was only to make you a little more open to listen to people, let them into your life, the make a difference in putting yourself in their places, letting them change the way you see them. You are going to change peoples lives in letting them change yours. Big challenge. God asks us big things through His love. I’ll be happy in making people happy. Believe me that’s the way I do.
shalom!
God Bless you!


Feeling bad for not having a boy/girlfriend?

Today we celebrate St Anthony’s, in north america we pray for him in order to find stuff we’ve lost but here in Brazil we pray to “find” a husband/wife. That’s why the day we celebrate those who are in love is on the 12th of June and not on the day before St. Valentine.

So, these last couple weeks people were talking about their boyfriends and girlfriends, about what they were going to give as a present, but I’ve seen some people feeling bad because they didn’t have a boyfriend (sorry girls but it was mostly a girl thing). I’ve found a phrase, which I published on my Facebook wall that says something like this (it was in Portuguese): “I’m not spending that day with a girlfriend, I never look for an Indian on Indian’s day or for a tree on tree’s day” That may sound like I’m trying to find some consolation around, which wasn’t the point. After that remembered, through a post of a friend, of a saying I’ve found a long time ago on  Jacilyn Rae’s blog that says “A woman’s heart should be so lost in God, that a man must seek Him to find her.” I’ve found it so true that I started praying right away, when I say praying I don’t mean making an elaborate prayer with a lot of words, I mean just the quiet feeling of God’s presence and peace.

That’s what I’m looking for in a woman. Maybe this is my dream of a “Princess charming” and I must accept a not-so-close-to-God king of girl and walk with her towards Him. But it gave me a lot of consolation remembering of the passage where Jesus says: “seek his kingdom, and these other things will be given you besides”(Lc 12, 31). That’s why I don’t bother at all not having a girlfriend on this day, because I Know the one I want is very close to God’s heart and He’ll show me when its the good moment.

Talking with two of my girl friends, we came to the point of differences between sexes and I have to admit beauty attracts men but that’s not the only thing that attracts us. They were saying that sometimes(it happened more than once) when getting into a party they drew attention and men came to ask them if they were “believers” (!), as they answered yes, those same guys told them to go away cause they deserved better than what they were going to find there. That was of course an opportunity to evangelize but it shows that even those guys that were only looking for a girl to spend the night with, value women with content specially Christian ones. (Of course I’m talking about Brazilians, we still are a very Christian Country)

I can say the same for me; if I find a “princess” and I see she’s not even looking for God, if she’s not interested in prayer she’ll push me away without noticing. For that very reason I’ll not look for the “woman of my dreams” in a pub or a club. So as I know there are a lot of Catholic women looking for their “prince charming” here’s my advice for you: While caring for your beauty care for your spiritual life. Go out and have fun, but engage yourselves in the church and you’ll find the guy you’re looking for… but please leave the seminarians alone! Last but not least ask yourselves about celibacy for the Kingdom of God, even if that’s not your vocation that will make you pray and that will bring the right guy.

Shalom!


Are You ‘You’ Online?

This is a revised version of “Who are you?”, this version will be on the catholic exchange on 12th of May I just added here the same ending as I wrote in the first post.

No one is as funny in real life as on Twitter, or as good looking as on Facebook and so on and so forth… The internet has given us means to connect with people, but how do we connect with these people? Do we really let ourselves be known? It is easy to block somebody on MSN or “unfriend” on Facebook, but real life is not as easy as the internet.

In life people have their weaknesses, and it is part of life to deal with them, especially if they hurt us. Forgiving is one of the most important thing Jesus taught us. Being forgiven is also a great lesson for us. In our final judgment it will be all about accepting God’s forgiveness.

On the net we want to look better than we are because we don’t accept that we are lovable with our weaknesses. We have learned to compete, to try to overcome every obstacle. It’s as if our value as a person is based on our achievements or victories or in what we do.

I have discovered someone that loves me, not beyond my flaws, but with them. I’ve felt His love and I’ve learned to let Him forgive me and love me. We can make a big effort to love someone but how hard is it to let the others love us? Especially when we see they’re aware of our “dark side.” The internet has taken from us the right to feel sad, the right to not be perfect. Even when we’re not feeling alright we “have” to put it in a funny way.

I have known people from all over the planet, personally and through the net, but I often feel like I don’t know them very well. There are, of course, exceptions. I think of a friend who lives in Vienna.  We talked face to face more than ten years ago, but the net has kept us close. These last months she has shared some difficult things about her life. That is a friend’s trust. That is using internet as a means, not as an end.

I’d like to invite you to be yourself on the net, to use the net as a means to truly connect with people. I’m not saying to open your life to everybody, but to let people into your real life. We know it’s impossible to have a million friends in real life, but we can choose some to be the closest ones. Even Jesus had James, John and Peter as His best friends.

 I open the invitation to choose someone from a different culture to be your friend you’ll see how enriching this can be. Thanks for reading it to the end, I just let my heart speak, I didn’t organized my thoughts. That’s what friends do right? If you liked this post please share it with your friends. Thanks.


Don’t Be A Nasty Catholic


Prayer of Tobiah and Sarah

As I was praying yesterday before the Blessed Sacrament I opened the Bible in no specific book as a form of letting myself be guided by His providence to read what He wanted to say to me that moment. The book I opened in was the book of Tobit. (I feel sorry for our brothers protestants that don’t accept this book as part of revelation, they’re loosing a lot of the revelation on divine providence)

That made me pray a lot with His providence in the lives of those characters not very much known by a big part of Christians. I know I don’t have much time to write today but I want to share what is most touching for me in this book.
Both Tobiah and Sarah raised their prayer to the Lord asking to die and end up with the sufferings they were enduring. As The book goes on we see that Raphael was the angel in charge of taking their prayers and presenting them to God. But what impresses me the most is the way their prayer is listened by God.

Tobiah asked to die and God healed hies eyes, gave him fortune and a daughter-in-law of his own kindred (which wans’t easy in his condition of exiled).
Sarah also asked to die and the Lord gave her the husband Faithful to His commandments.

Whats my point? Lets just pray knowing that God Knows what is best for us. Every time I read the book of Tobit I’m renewed in my confidence that the Lord Knows best what is good for me and even though I think I’m not being listened because things around me aren’t going where I want them to go I just Know God has something way better prepared for me Just around the corner.

Lesson leaned from the lectio Divina, God hasn’t set a trap to catch me, it is actually the contrary, He has a better life waiting for me if I let his angels help me.

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Who are you?

No one is as funny in real life as on twitter, or as good looking as on Facebook and so on and so forth… Internet has given us means to connect with people, but how do we connect with these people? Do we really let ourselves be known? It is too easy to block somebody on the MSN or “unfriend” on Facebook but real life is not as easy as internet. I feel like a lot of people is changing the “second life” by the real one. In life people have their weaknesses, and it is part of life to deal with them, specially if they hurt us. Forgiving is one of the most important thing Jesus taught us. Being forgiven is also a great lesson for us to let God change our hearts. In our final judgment it will be all about accepting  God’s forgiveness, or you really thing you’ll deserve to go to heaven? On the net we want to look better than we are because we didn’t accept that we are lovable with our weaknesses. We have learned to compete, to overcome every obstacle. It’s like our value as a person in out on our achievements or victories or in what we do. I have discovered someone that loves me not beyond my flaws but with them. I’ve felt His love and I’ve learned to let Him forgive me and love me. We can make a big effort to love someone but how hard is it to let the others love us?Specially when we see they’re aware of our “dark side”… Internet has taken from us the right of feeling sad, the right of not being perfect. Even when we’re not feeling alright we “have” to put it in a funny way… I have known people from all over the planet, personally and through the net, but I always feel like I don’t know them very well. There are of course exceptions. I think of a friend who lives in Vienna, we talked face to face, more than ten years ago but the net has kept us close and these last months she have shared some difficult thing about her life. That’s friends trust, that’s using internet as a means not as an end. I’d like to invite you to be yourself on the net, to use the net as a means to connect with people. I’m not saying: open your life to everybody, but let people in your real life. We know it’s impossible to have in real life a million friends but we choose some to be the closest ones Even Jesus had James, John and Peter as His best friends. I open the invitation to choose someone from a different culture to be your friend you’ll see how enriching this can be. Thanks for reading it to the end, I just let my heart speak, I didn’t organized my thoughts. That’s what friends do right? If you liked this post please share it with your friends. Thanks.


No one is meant to be with me :)

Last week I was talking with a good friend of mine about vocation and state of life, and a subject came up. Some people believe that God has created two people to each other in other words they were meant to be together. We both agreed that we don’t agree with that. I believe that when God created myself He gave me my masculinity as part of who I am, He gave me also my vocation to Shalom Community also as part of who I am but also as my way to walk through this life towards holiness and eternal life, and finally He called me to a specific state of life as the way I’m going to serve him better in this life once in the next we’re all going to be celibates. (Just a good thing to remember: He’s called me before life events could hurt me so I can’t pass trough a discernment seeing only the wounds life gave me… but this is a theme for another post).

People who believe God created two people to each other may say: If God thought about that many details why wouldn’t He think about one person for me to be happy with in marriage (if marriage is my state of life of course)? Because in order to be fully happy we’d have to be entirely in God’s plans and it depends on my listening to Him and corresponding with His will. So if I don’t say yes to my personal vocation I won’t be as happy as I could because it will be lacking something of His plans for me. (It doesn’t mean that I won’t be happy outside of His will, I just won’t be as happy as I’d be inside of it). Therefore, if that person God chose for me says no to His plans I won’t be as whole as I could be because of someone else’s fault. I don’t believe God thinks this way.

That would imply fate or destiny. I’ve talked about this in other posts, I believe God knows the way things will happen because He can foresee all of the consequences of each and every decision of ours at every split of second. But the decisions are still ours. So I believe that people may cross our lives with God’s knowledge and permission and they might be “the one” for us but not because He imposes us this one but because He knows this one is a good “half” for us. Still this isn’t our only choice.